My friend Marcia wrote me today to announce that her baby, Makayla, was born on October 21. Makayla wasn't alive when she was born.
Pray for Marcia, who has some peace with her daughter being called home, but wonders if her daughter is at peace.
Pray because if you never face what Marcia faced or faces, you'll be blissfully ignorant. Sometimes there isn't a place in your heart for all the pain and questions.
I wish I could give Marcia a hug and I wish she could hold the life given me these 227 days. I am grateful to all of you for helping me hold her. I am humbled, I am confused why I am blessed to listen to a baby's cry and Marcia seeks peace in the stillness of each night.
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I will pray that her baby has peace, and that she and her family find the grace to accept what they have been given. We may be facing the same situation soon (trisomy 18 baby due in December, but some funny signs yesterday), and I will need the same grace.
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ReplyDeleteMy heart broke reading this, as a mother I can not imagine the pain. My thoughts and prayers are with Marcia.
ReplyDeleteMarcia--God is good and gracious, even if we don't understand His ways. Jesus loves the little children, He welcomed them to Him while on earth, I am sure He still welcomes them. Prayers ascend for you.
ReplyDeleteThis post brought tears to my eyes. I cannot even imagine either of my babies being born not alive. I will be praying for her.
ReplyDeleteI share Marcia's experience (my baby girl with Trisomy 18 was stillborn), and I have envied every one of your days with Zoe. I wrote to you about it several weeks ago in response to one of your posts about doing everything possible to extend Zoe's life, but for some reason you decided not to post my comment about my Trisomy 18baby being stillborn. It hurt, and I couldn't figure out why you wouldn't post it. But I finally just gave up wondering.
ReplyDeleteI am truly sorry for Marcia. I can understand exactly what she is going through and feeling.
an fyi...i have no idea how i missed someone's comment. so far, the only comments i haven't posted are: 1) someone commenting about sarah palin 2) someone saying they are glad they are no longer part of the family (no idea) and 3) someone asking for chris sampson pictures. that's it. i really have no motive to not print someone's comment. so, apologies, anonymous. i have no idea what happened, but i'd be happy to reprint your thoughts if you'd like to submit them again.
ReplyDeleteHi, it's me, the first Anonymous poster above, who said we were facing some funny signs with our Trisomy 18 baby. Well, I'm now coming to grips with what happened last week: my wife gave birth to our Trisomy 18 baby at 34 weeks. He was alive, and was awake and calm. He could look around at lights and react to our tickles and hugs, but he was weak. He had several breathing episodes, but kept going. A parent's mind races with optimism at every good turn, at every flush of good color; but unfortunately, after about 4 hours, it was too much for him, and his breathing stopped for good. We had our sweet little boy for four hours. So treasure every day and hour with your child. I will pray for you.
ReplyDeleteMarcia, my heart goes out to you. I've been so fortunate to have 4 children and now 4 grandchildren. I've also had some tough times in my life and without my faith I don't think I'd be here today. Your baby will always be with you in your heart and spirit. I pray God gives you peace as you go forward in the days ahead.
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Carol